I’m the guy in the blue shirt. I’m frustrated. The guy in the green shirt is my problem – always saying negative things that put on the brakes and stop forward movement. Green Shirt guy would say things like, “This is hopeless,” or “We already tried that – it didn’t work”, or “I don’t know why we bother.” Famous for justifying lack of progress by putting the blame on others, the talk would continue, “It’s not my fault – the other guy screwed up,” or the old stand-by “the timelines on this project were crazy stupid!”
This kind of talk is not helpful and serves to limit our thinking and action. Over time, the repetition of this kind of talk turns into deep-seated beliefs about our abilities. It stops us from moving closer to our goal.
The real problem is that the guy in the green shirt is also me. This is the kind of self-talk I regularly engaged in.
The Great Traits (thegreattraits.com) Corporate Champions Program, developed by Mark Tewksbury and Debbie Muir, tell us that we need to be more aware of our thinking. By utilizing the power of thought and mastering your thinking, you have a much greater chance of accessing your full potential. The first step is to know what is running through your head. En-route to getting what we want, most of us focus on what we have to do and pay little attention to what we have to think. Once you are aware of what you are thinking, you can spend time turning those thoughts around to better serve you.
When you catch yourself falling into negativity or not quite believing in yourself, think of some words that give you strength. When disparaging words come to mind now, I talk back to the Green Shirt guy, “I don’t have to listen to you Green Shirt guy!” And then, I prove him wrong by taking action or using powerful words to frame my thinking. “I am courageous, competent, resourceful and resilient. I can do this!” And guess what? It really works!